I'm Lena Chen, a writer, activist, and media producer who's been called a "skank" (by Bill O'Reilly) and "a small Asian woman" (by The New York Times). My favorite part of my workday is the hate mail.For the unlikely story that is my life, read on.
These are not all-encompassing examples, but I think it’s harmful whenever people alter their sexual behavior:
All of the above leads to a culture of silence around issues of sexuality. The result is that this incredibly integral part of our lives becomes a topic of misinformation and stigma, which translate into real-world consequences for human health and well-being. And let’s be real: waiting for intercourse nowadays doesn’t mean that one abstains from sexual activity altogether. Because if that were the case, kids with purity rings wouldn’t be getting pregnant. Anyone ever hear of “Just The Tip”? Yeah, thought so. (I’ve written before about how murky definitions of “virginity” become when moving beyond heteronormative conceptions of sexuality.)
I’m not going to be the arbiter of who’s Doing Sex Right. There are a lot of good and bad reasons for having sex, just as there are good and bad reasons for not having it. Bottom line: If you’re RSVP-ing to Rainbow Parties, don’t do it because all your girlfriends are going to be there. If you’re delaying sex, don’t do it because you believe some bullshit about “damaged goods”.
More burning questions? Ask Lena.