Some snapshots from a tennis court in Los Angeles. Taken in February 2011. FEBRUARY. And the weather was probably warmer then than November in Boston. I so need to go home again.
Anatomy of the Outfit: Qi cashmere fringe hoodie (via Swirl), Marc Jacobs top, Loeffler Randall shorts (via Swirl), Napapijri wedges, Leyla bag.
Photo Credit: Patrick Hamm
“How To Lose Your Virginity” filmmaker Therese Shechter captured some amazing footage and interviews from SlutWalk NYC, which I attended on Saturday. Check out a gal dressed as Hester Prynne (!!) at 00:23, Jenn Levya of Fat And The Ivy at 00:30, Jennifer Pozner of Women In Media and News at 00:50, Sady Doyle of Tiger Beatdown at 01:28, and feminist writer Nona Willis Aronowitz at 2:06.
I missed the sign-making portion of the event, so I hijacked someone else’s “I ask for it when I’m asking for it” poster (see if you can spot it in the video!) I think the award for geekiest/cleverest sign has got to go to Jenn for the following creation:

This post comes after many, MANY reader requests on SlutWalk coverage. I’ve been following the event quite closely, but for a host of reasons, haven’t felt qualified to comment on the it. Salamishah Tillet, a classmate from my Progressive Women’s Voices media training, wrote a piece for The Nation last week about participating as a woman of color. I share many of her mixed feelings toward SlutWalk. (I encourage you to read her essay.)
I didn’t “dress up” for the event, by which I mean that I didn’t dress down. That surprised at least a couple of my friends, since I’ve never been one to turn down an opportunity to scandalize. I didn’t see that as the point of SlutWalk, though. While I’m sure the scantily clad crowds are part of the reason why the event has attracted (often inaccurate) media coverage, the organizers encouraged marchers to wear what makes them comfortable. Had the weather not been on the chillier end, would I have gone topless? Maybe, but ultimately, what I or any other marcher wore was irrelevant, because the event itself was about why no one’s outfit — or sexual history, background, job, etc. — should ever be used as a justification for sexual harassment and assault. As Nona said in the above video, she’s even been harassed while wearing sweatpants and PJ’s. So why in the world do we still have cops telling women to “protect” themselves by not dressing like sluts? If sexual violence prevention were really that simple, rape wouldn’t exist in the Northeast during the parka-happy months of December-March.
Have you attended a SlutWalk event? I’d be interested to hear about your experience! Here are some thoughts from Therese, the filmmaker of the above clip:
This past Saturday, October 1st, Slutwalk came to New York City, and I was there with my camera to record scene at the march. Please feel free to share it far and wide!*
For me, one of the truly frustrating things about coverage of SlutWalks all over the world has been the media’s focus on the most elaborately undressed and risque marchers, leading people to believe the events are solely about demanding the right to dress like a slut. I hope this video gives people a sense of the range of participants (gender, orientation, background, race, age) that were there marching, chanting and generally raising some hell. You’ll want to hit pause over and over again to read all the signs!!
Some other coverage of the event from The Nation, RH Reality Check, NY Post (but not loving the ‘hundreds of scantily clad ladies’ line). Please send us more links to stories!
A BRIEF PRIMER:
If you’re not familiar with SlutWalk, the SlutwalkNYC organizers have lots of info on their website, but here’s quick intro:
SlutWalk has become a worldwide grassroots movement challenging rape culture, victim-blaming and slut-shaming, and working to end sexual and domestic violence. The name has been controversial, but the mission is a powerful one: to shed the stereotypes and myths of sexual assault, support a better understanding of why sexual assault happens, and put the blame where it belongs–on those who perpetrate it.
SlutWalk started in my fabulous home town of Toronto, where in January 2011 a group of York University college students asked a representative of the Toronto Police Department how keep themselves safe from sexual assault. His response of “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized” galvanized the women into creating SlutWalk in Toronto.
At the time, I’m sure they didn’t realize they were about to unleash a powerful political movement that would spread like wildfire. Marches have been held all over the world, from Delhi to Capetown, Seoul to Mexico City, and in cities all across the US.
SLUTWALK NYC’s MISSION:
No matter who you are
No matter where you work
No matter how you identify
No matter how you flirt
No matter what you wear
No matter who you choose to love
No matter what you said before:NO ONE has the right to touch you without your consent.
*We’d love you to share and embed this video, and if you can, please link back to this blog at virginitymovie.com or to Trixie Films at trixiefilms.com. If you want to do more than embed it, like use it in your own project, please contact us and we’ll figure it out. Thanks for supporting independent feminist media!
(via SlutWalkNYC: A Video Diary | How to Lose Your Virginity)

Here’s a (cheesy) snapshot of me outside St. Anthony Hall, which hosted my talk at Yale. Today’s event was SO much fun. This may be the first time I’ve been sad-ish to leave New Haven, which was glowing with the finest weather I’ve ever seen it enjoy. (I’ve had many frigid and inhospitable visits thanks to the annual Harvard-Yale football game. Never sunny like today. Never.) A thing I hate about these talks: they are always sort of awkward in that I do all the talking but don’t get to hear much from the audience. Plus, I always forget business cards and I meet such interesting people after the event and don’t get to keep in touch with them. SO! If we chatted, even if it was for all of 90 seconds, drop me a line and say hi :) And even if we didn’t get to talk, get in touch if it strikes your fancy. I’d looove to continue some of the very interesting conversations I had. (And I’ll be back for another event in November, so watch out, Yalies.) For those who weren’t able to make it, keep your eyes peeled for a video coming soon … And now, I’m off to New York for the weekend (and for SlutWalk tomorrow)!

Hi Yalies! I’ll be in town this Friday to discuss my experiences writing from a feminist perspective and and the challenges therein. How has the rapid proliferation of feminist blogs and “women’s” sections of online magazines changed activism, the reach of feminist commentary, and discussions of sex? Is a career in feminism the most effective way to bring about social change? What does being a “professional feminist” even look like?
I’ll be answering these questions with feminist group Broad Recognition as part of a public lecture series hosted by St. Anthony’s, a society at Yale. Hope you join us on Friday, and leave a comment if you have a related topic you think I should discuss :)
(And yes, this event, as well as the other lectures in the series, is open to the public, so even if you’re not a Yale affiliate, definitely drop by!)
If you plan on attending, RSVP on Facebook here.
Today was the last day of Progressive Women’s Voices! These are some of my classmates from the training. (I don’t have photos of all of them, but I’ll post a group shot at some point.)
The past week has been really intense: 9 to 5 trainings, getting ambushed on camera, many late nights to catch up with DC friends, plus all the hurricane hullabaloo to top it off. Completing PWV was like being hazed for a sorority. (I’ve never been in a sorority, so I wouldn’t really know, but you know what I mean.) I’m really happy that I got to pick up some public speaking knowledge, but even more grateful that PWV put me in contact with amazing people I wouldn’t have otherwise met. These women are SO accomplished — professors, lawyers, non-profit founders. I’m still astounded that I was selected to participate!
Today’s also my last night in DC. I have a couple meetings tomorrow morning (with Feminist Majority Foundation and the National Campaign To Prevent Teen & Unplanned Pregnancy). And then it’s back to Boston! Can’t wait to see the dude and the pup :)

Gorgeous day in DC. Walked around Georgetown with Kennedy, met a blog reader, and had the most fabulous feast at Honey Pig. Really wasn’t expecting to find Korean barbecue in Virginia, but there ya go.
So glad this hurricane business turned out to be overblown ;)
Some shots from my California trip, all taken in Pebble Beach. It was overcast during our whole drive from San Francisco, but a little turbulence in the waves makes for better photos, don’t you think?
Anatomy of the Outfit: Clara Collins top (on sale at Rescue), Prps jeans, Dolce Vita booties (eBay), and Y-3 hoodie (eBay).
Hint: click to enlarge the photos :)
Photographer: Patrick Hamm

Peak of Monument Mountain! We hiked this over the weekend when we were in the Berkshires :)

Last weekend in Pebble Beach, California. We did the 17-Mile Drive and pointed at the seals and sea otters. (I’ve been obsessed with sea otters since junior high, when I did a school project on them.) My first time visiting!
Photo Credit: Patrick Hamm

Taken at Salinas River State Beach in February 2011.
California, here I come! Apologies for lack of posts lately … trying to wrap up last deadlines of July and collect on overdue invoices before taking a last-minute trip to to the West Coast on Wednesday. (Very, very last-minute, as we only decided on it a few days ago.) I’ll be in San Francisco this Thursday and Friday, driving down the coast over the weekend, and arriving in Los Angeles on Monday for a three-day stay. In total, seven days of friends, family, sun, and muuuuch needed unwinding.
I’ve hit a bit of a writerly rut lately, and despite producing a LOT of client work this past month (much more than usual), I haven’t been able to make as much progress as I’d like on my book proposal. Patrick and I spent a night in Big Sur back in February and it was so tranquil and wildly different from my day-to-day. Maybe that’s what I need to deprogram? I’m also quite thrilled by the culinary possibilities that await us in my home state … Mexican, dim sum, and lots of bubble tea! (Though I did just start a weight loss bet with my best friend Jason, and I loathe to lose, so I’ll have to keep up the exercise regimen, even while on vacation, grr…) Still a ton of stuff to get done before I leave on Wednesday, eeeep!
Anatomy of the Outfit: Rebel Yell tank (online at Plndr), Jane Norman shorts (got these in Germany), Hanii Y cardigan. Not pictured: Rainbow sandals (got these in summer of 2006 and they’re still amazing!).
Photo credit: Patrick Hamm


