the ch!cktionary

    24 Jan 2012

    Language Immersion

    When I was out at a nightclub in Shanghai the other night, there was this inebriated Chinese guy who was making my gaydar go off in all kinds of ways. One second, he’s humping a male acquaintance in my group - and really, there is no other way to describe the scene except “humping” - the next, he’s grabbing my hand and leading me off the dance floor to his table. I am more than a little confused and he doesn’t speak English so using my barely passable Mandarin, I am able to deduce the following:

    1. He is not interested in the aforementioned target of his humping.*
    2. He is, in fact, interested in me, who he describes as “piao liang” (beautiful).
    3. He understands that I have a boyfriend (a fact that I communicate at least thrice), but he doesn’t mind!
    4. He would like to be an additional boyfriend of mine.
    5. Failing that, he would like to share a drink with me.

    After he thrusts a full glass of booze in my face, I daintily do my “sip and ditch” move, which consists of faking a sip of alcohol and getting the fuck outta there to find my friends (who are actually able to speak Mandarin). I am, however, pretty amused by the entire situation and pleased with myself for being able to communicate with a native speaker all by myself.

    If only I could improve my Chinese solely through interactions with strangers at nightclubs.

    * He may have very well been bisexual, but I have no idea how to say that in Chinese, guys.

    13 Jan 2012

    Well, it’s been a while.

    But last night a very sober Lena somehow wound up at a Nanjing nightclub where I was sandwiched between sweaty bros singing things like “I’ve got 99 problems but a bitch ain’t one.”

    And that was before all the unsolicited groping started.

    It’s been a while since college and even longer since I’ve partied with fratty dudes in earnest, but absolutely nothing has changed, has it?

    (I’m certain that anyone who knows me in real life will be completely astounded by the fact that I was at a nightclub that didn’t involve gay go-go dancers.)

    19 Jul 2011

    “During a spot check by the Guardia Civil in front of one of the discotheques on the main Ibiza Town/San Antonio road last week an Eastern European man was stopped driving a scooter which had not passed its MOT test, or have up-to-date insurance papers. On searching him the officers found that he had 19 small packets of a white substance in his possession, which appeared to be drugs. “It’s sugar to sell to the tourists” he explained and, when tested, the bags were found not to contain any illegal substances. He was allowed to go, probably to sell his sugar to clubbers at an exorbitant price elsewhere!”
    The Ibiza Sun | Crimes and Incidents

    Wow. The police blotter page of The Ibiza Sun might just cement Ibiza as my favorite land of excess. (Totally beats Vegas.) See evidence here, here, and here.

    22 Apr 2011

    Blogging While Hungover: This Is What It Looks Like
Let’s file this one under: “I’m usually classy, I swear”. I got drunk last night with some of my fabulous high school friends (who I really do not see enough of). We chugged Grey Goose and Tropicana while sitting in a car in the parking lot of our favorite bubble tea place. Because the best post-chaser obviously involves boba balls.
So much for “never” drinking … After being on a three-year hiatus from habitual intake of alcohol, I’ve recently started getting tipsy again, and I gotta say, I still don’t love the taste (no, not even of wine) but as long I don’t wind up puking, it can be fun. Until this month, my consumption has been limited to champagne during special occasions and hard liquor the one or two times a year when I decide to go all out and get hammered. There’s almost no in-between: no wine with dinner or cocktails at brunch, no happy hours, no casual beers. I partied so hard in undergrad, but by the time I turned 21, I completely lost interest in booze and in going out.
Part of it is that I stopped finding college parties appealing because I realized I was a misanthrope who hated strangers. Then shortly thereafter, I started dating Patrick, who also drank very sparingly and had significantly older friends who’d gotten all that stuff out of their systems. My friends made fun of me for being such a homebody. But it’s true! I’ve never gotten into the bar or club scene as an adult, and I don’t go out in Boston. If I didn’t travel so frequently to New York, where bars seem to be a  default meeting place, I’d probably never even touch beer.  I’m That Girl who hangs out with her boyfriend on Saturday nights and walks the dog at 1am when most folks are running about in a drunken stupor. I’m That Cranky Person who lives near a huge stretch of bars and complains about it every weekend when drunk people make noise. But maybe I’m now old enough and far enough removed from my days of alcohol abuse that I can identify what is or is not an unhealthy habit. And since I’m a lightweight but don’t get Asian glow, it seems an awful shame that I don’t take full advantage when the opportunity comes up.
Still don’t dig the hangover, though.
(Yes, this shirt says “Deutschbag”, and yes, I travel with items from Patrick’s closet. I thought I was being oh-so-clever when I got this custom-made for him three years ago.)

    Blogging While Hungover: This Is What It Looks Like

    Let’s file this one under: “I’m usually classy, I swear”. I got drunk last night with some of my fabulous high school friends (who I really do not see enough of). We chugged Grey Goose and Tropicana while sitting in a car in the parking lot of our favorite bubble tea place. Because the best post-chaser obviously involves boba balls.

    So much for “never” drinking … After being on a three-year hiatus from habitual intake of alcohol, I’ve recently started getting tipsy again, and I gotta say, I still don’t love the taste (no, not even of wine) but as long I don’t wind up puking, it can be fun. Until this month, my consumption has been limited to champagne during special occasions and hard liquor the one or two times a year when I decide to go all out and get hammered. There’s almost no in-between: no wine with dinner or cocktails at brunch, no happy hours, no casual beers. I partied so hard in undergrad, but by the time I turned 21, I completely lost interest in booze and in going out.

    Part of it is that I stopped finding college parties appealing because I realized I was a misanthrope who hated strangers. Then shortly thereafter, I started dating Patrick, who also drank very sparingly and had significantly older friends who’d gotten all that stuff out of their systems. My friends made fun of me for being such a homebody. But it’s true! I’ve never gotten into the bar or club scene as an adult, and I don’t go out in Boston. If I didn’t travel so frequently to New York, where bars seem to be a default meeting place, I’d probably never even touch beer. I’m That Girl who hangs out with her boyfriend on Saturday nights and walks the dog at 1am when most folks are running about in a drunken stupor. I’m That Cranky Person who lives near a huge stretch of bars and complains about it every weekend when drunk people make noise. But maybe I’m now old enough and far enough removed from my days of alcohol abuse that I can identify what is or is not an unhealthy habit. And since I’m a lightweight but don’t get Asian glow, it seems an awful shame that I don’t take full advantage when the opportunity comes up.

    Still don’t dig the hangover, though.

    (Yes, this shirt says “Deutschbag”, and yes, I travel with items from Patrick’s closet. I thought I was being oh-so-clever when I got this custom-made for him three years ago.)

    22 Dec 2010

    Remember when I woke up with a hangover and puked last week and generally wanted to off myself?  I just paid my credit card bill and found this entry, which I don’t  remember at all. This has never happened to me before — the whole  paying for something and being so drunk that I don’t recall handing over  (and apparently taking back) my credit card.
Milestones in stupidity.

    Remember when I woke up with a hangover and puked last week and generally wanted to off myself? I just paid my credit card bill and found this entry, which I don’t remember at all. This has never happened to me before — the whole paying for something and being so drunk that I don’t recall handing over (and apparently taking back) my credit card.

    Milestones in stupidity.

    15 Dec 2010

    This Is What A Hungover Feminist Looks Like
Chipper, right? Don’t be fooled. I was totally ready to collapse when this photo was taken yesterday in Williamsburg. That’s what happens when two non-drinkers decide to drink for no apparent reason, on a night when no one else is drinking or even outside because of the frigid cold.

    This Is What A Hungover Feminist Looks Like

    Chipper, right? Don’t be fooled. I was totally ready to collapse when this photo was taken yesterday in Williamsburg. That’s what happens when two non-drinkers decide to drink for no apparent reason, on a night when no one else is drinking or even outside because of the frigid cold.

    25 Nov 2010

    You know things are getting festive when …

    … you wake up at 7:30 Thanksgiving morning to your apartment buzzer going off and find at the door your still-drunk friend with brand-new stitches above his eye and no recollection of how or why he woke up at the emergency room a couple hours ago.

    HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! Don’t worry, I still like alcohol.

    19 Nov 2010

    I <3 my Yalies, despite the school rivalry. At last year’s Harvard-Yale football game, Hamlet got so much attention and excitement that he ended up puking twice at the tailgate and once in our bed after he got home. Um, let’s try to avoid that this time.
Photo taken in New Haven at Harvard-Yale 2009

    I <3 my Yalies, despite the school rivalry. At last year’s Harvard-Yale football game, Hamlet got so much attention and excitement that he ended up puking twice at the tailgate and once in our bed after he got home. Um, let’s try to avoid that this time.

    Photo taken in New Haven at Harvard-Yale 2009

    19 Nov 2010

    Hey guys, remember that time we thought it&#8217;d be a good idea to drive all the way to New Haven in Jason&#8217;s questionably stable car without a place to stay in subzero temperatures? Oh, wait, that&#8217;s right: no one remembers because two of us got ROOFIED at the Game and the rest of us were so scarred by the experience of sharing a dorm room floor with nine of our closest friends (two of whom were hooking up in said room) that we tried to forget about that weekend as quickly as possible.
At least we had cool custom t-shirts.
[Photo snapped at Harvard-Yale 2005]

    Hey guys, remember that time we thought it’d be a good idea to drive all the way to New Haven in Jason’s questionably stable car without a place to stay in subzero temperatures? Oh, wait, that’s right: no one remembers because two of us got ROOFIED at the Game and the rest of us were so scarred by the experience of sharing a dorm room floor with nine of our closest friends (two of whom were hooking up in said room) that we tried to forget about that weekend as quickly as possible.

    At least we had cool custom t-shirts.

    [Photo snapped at Harvard-Yale 2005]

    19 Nov 2010

    My friend Mel just sent me this e-card in anticipation of the festivities soon to follow!
In a few hours, my houseguests start arriving for Harvard-Yale Weekend! I&#8217;m getting up at 7am tomorrow, whipping up breakfast, dressing Hamlet in his Yale jersey (crap, I can&#8217;t seem to find a single Harvard tee), pre-gaming, and getting to the tailgate by the 10am start.

    My friend Mel just sent me this e-card in anticipation of the festivities soon to follow!

    In a few hours, my houseguests start arriving for Harvard-Yale Weekend! I’m getting up at 7am tomorrow, whipping up breakfast, dressing Hamlet in his Yale jersey (crap, I can’t seem to find a single Harvard tee), pre-gaming, and getting to the tailgate by the 10am start.