the ch!cktionary

1 Jan 2009
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“I’m judging her because she has so much sex (I can guarantee that I’ve slept with less people, had WAYY less sex, and actually remember it all), and doesn’t mind telling the whole world about it. Age has nothing to do with it, besides the fact that if she really is at Harvard then she’s a whole lot smarter for her age than I am. And, being smarter, she should be more mature than keeping a public count of how many people she’s sleeping with (dating six guys at once? Really?). She is free to live her life however she wants, just as I am free to have my own opinion. Putting her business out in public, she should be prepared to be judged (writing about exes is one thing. Being amused by the fact that you’re too drunk to remember most of the sex that you may or may not have had, and sharing this publicly, is another) … I ran out of birth control, and had unexpected sex with my son’s father. I don’t believe in abortion (I am pro-choice for certain circumstances, but it’s not for me), so I had him. I think it is disgusting, immoral, and irresponsible to use Plan B on a regular basis because you’re too drunk to be responsible most of the time. It’s also disgusting to sleep with guys that have girlfriends. She should have more respect for everyone involved. Karma will bite her in the a**…”

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New Ditty on why she called me a “slutbag”

I am actually all for judging people. In fact, my current Facebook bio says, “I will judge you” because I think that there aren’t enough people willing to express disapproval for others’ appalling behavior. But unlike New Ditty, I’m very particular about what to judge people on. I will make a permanent mental note if someone ever says something racist, classist, or homophobic in front of me (yes, even while drunk) and never forgive them for it. I have a list of Harvard acquaintances I no longer associate with because of this. I defriended every Facebook pal who was in a Yes On Prop 8 group. Related to that, I am extremely suspicious of religiously motivated decision-making. Most of all, I judge people for being judgmental.

That said, I don’t think New Ditty (or anyone for that matter) has the right to judge my sexual history. Why? Well, unlike racism or homophobia or whatever else, my sex life is a personal matter that affects no one but myself and my partners. Were I expressing support for a political position, feel free to judge away.

And by the way, you should probably get some facts straight before you publicly denounce someone:

The amount of sex had is not an indication of character. You’re not a better person for keeping your legs closed any more than you are for keeping your mouth shut.
Are you actually claiming that since I go to Harvard, I should be held to higher standards of conduct than you? How exactly does that work?
The point of dating is to test-drive as many models as possible before selecting the German vehicle of your dreams. Thus, the only problem with dating six guys at once is that I only have room for one on my speed dial. Oh, and “dating” doesn’t translate to “sleeping with”. I like to keep romance and orgasms as separate as possible.
What makes you think don’t remember most of the sex I’ve had? I keep a freaking list, honey.
There’s this thing called sarcasm. When I said I “popped Plan B like candy”, I actually meant that I’ve taken Plan B exactly twice in my life, both times within a four-month period after freshman year when I didn’t have birth control pills because I was home for the summer (my mother would’ve disapproved). I’ve never been “too drunk to be responsible” and to use protection; the condoms just broke both times.
Even if I were drunk, that’s what Plan B is for: emergencies. It’s not immoral at all (even pro-lifers don’t have much of an argument against it), and if you didn’t want to have an abortion but didn’t want to have a kid either, then you should’ve used it yourself.
You can’t be “pro-choice for certain circumstances”. That would not be giving women much of a “choice” then, would it?
Guys with girlfriends usually don’t own up to having girlfriends.
Karma does not exist. It is about as real as Santa Claus and Thetans.

Oh, and by the way, I think everyone should work on the following this 2009: Why do Americans seem to think that we’re all entitled to an opinion and that said opinion is valid because all opinions are valid? Um, they’re not. For example, a racist’s opinion on Hispanic people is worth nothing. Likewise, New Ditty, given your interpretation of “pro-choice” and your inability to detect sarcasm, you probably aren’t too credible a source for opinions on Plan B, sexual responsibility, or vagina-related issues in general. The next time you think about calling someone a “slutbag”, you should at least Wikipedia “hypocrisy”.