the ch!cktionary

    29 Oct 2010

    Bad Feminist Confessions: “I make personalized origami congratulations cards when people get hitched.” Last thing you might ever expect from a hardcore feminist, but really, guys, I don’t hate your marriage or wedding even if I’m critical of the way Western society fetishizes these things. As I told a reader in my recent post (“Patrick Is Not The One”): “While I criticize marriage a lot on this blog, I’m not necessarily critical of each and every marriage in existence. I go to weddings, I like weddings, I even cry at weddings. Obviously, I don’t know anything about your relationship or the reasons why you chose to get married. (Who am I to blame you, given all the state benefits?) What I’m commenting on is the imposition of the institution on everyone, the casting of marriage as the Ultimate End Goal and only true signifier of commitment. That’s the sort of thing that leads to the stigmatization of those who don’t participate in the institution.” Though clearly, I’ve found other ways to participate ;) Related posts on marriage:Marriage Is Like A Country Club (CollegeCandy)How Feminism Misses The Point When It Comes To MarriageWhy I’m Against Gay Marriage (And Marriage In General)Jessica Valenti, Weddings, & Social ExpectationsReader Question: “Do you think you will eventually marry Patrick?”Are my “fucked up views” directly related to my relationship with my parents?

    Bad Feminist Confessions: “I make personalized origami congratulations cards when people get hitched.”

    Last thing you might ever expect from a hardcore feminist, but really, guys, I don’t hate your marriage or wedding even if I’m critical of the way Western society fetishizes these things.

    As I told a reader in my recent post (“Patrick Is Not The One”):

    “While I criticize marriage a lot on this blog, I’m not necessarily critical of each and every marriage in existence. I go to weddings, I like weddings, I even cry at weddings. Obviously, I don’t know anything about your relationship or the reasons why you chose to get married. (Who am I to blame you, given all the state benefits?) What I’m commenting on is the imposition of the institution on everyone, the casting of marriage as the Ultimate End Goal and only true signifier of commitment. That’s the sort of thing that leads to the stigmatization of those who don’t participate in the institution.”

    Though clearly, I’ve found other ways to participate ;)

    Related posts on marriage:
    Marriage Is Like A Country Club (CollegeCandy)
    How Feminism Misses The Point When It Comes To Marriage
    Why I’m Against Gay Marriage (And Marriage In General)
    Jessica Valenti, Weddings, & Social Expectations
    Reader Question: “Do you think you will eventually marry Patrick?”
    Are my “fucked up views” directly related to my relationship with my parents?

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