November 2010
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Anonymous asked: So I recently had a talk with my very religious roommate. She lost her (technical) virginity to an ex boyfriend, and regretted it after their break up. I told her that she should redefine virginity to suit her needs, and if she wants she can still think of herself as a virgin because he never gave her an orgasm. She thought that it was a nice thought, but she still had to think of herself as...
Nov 30th
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Nov 30th
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Bad Feminist Confessions: "I wear push-up bras."
And on Cyber Monday, the holiest of days, I am purchasing my second Miraculous Bra. Victoria’s Secret claims that this baby increases your rack by two entire cup sizes, which makes me hope that this is really only an appealing product for other A-cup ladies. Strapless dresses, here I come!
Nov 30th
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“I am offended that you would suggest that we are making up bogeymen just to be...”
– Zoe Yang, who I interviewed for the “dating while feminist” episode of Sex Really With Lena Chen   The above quote was taken from a discussion on my Facebook wall about whether the feminist movement turns off potential supporters by being an “angry” movement. The debate was...
Nov 29th
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Nov 29th
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Nov 29th
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Nov 27th
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“Listen, just because you’re a feminist doesn’t mean you have to have panty...”
– Leila Cohan-Miccio on my panty-buying experience
Nov 26th
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Black Friday Lament
Why is underwear so expensive? After swearing by Gap Body for pretty much all of college, I’m now making the official switch to a Big Girl Panties. (In other words, panties that don’t come in packs of five.) And crap, this stuff is pricey, even on sale. P.S. There are some online sales today (RueLaLa has Hanky Panky marked down to nearly 50 percent, Billion Dollar Babes has three...
Nov 26th
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You know things are getting festive when ...
… you wake up at 7:30 Thanksgiving morning to your apartment buzzer going off and find at the door your still-drunk friend with brand-new stitches above his eye and no recollection of how or why he woke up at the emergency room a couple hours ago. HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! Don’t worry, I still like alcohol.
Nov 25th
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Nov 25th
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Nov 25th
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Nov 24th
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Nov 23rd
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Healthy Cooking
Me: Don't worry, it's light butter.
Him: So it's NOT made with fat?
Me: Umm ... it's made from skinnier cows!
Nov 23rd
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Nov 22nd
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Nov 19th
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Nov 19th
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Nov 19th
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Convos With Women's Mag Editors
Editor: So you mentioned that you once got hog-tied during sex? I'm going to have to look this up.
Me: DO. NOT. GOOGLE. IMAGE. THIS.
Nov 18th
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giddyrush asked: Do you have a recipe for the Thai Beef & Soba Noodle Salad?? That looks amazing!
Nov 18th
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Nov 18th
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Awkward Things That Occur Because Of The Internet
The random “third” you found on CraigsList for your threesome? They’d like to add you on LinkedIn. Perhaps they’ll even “recommend” you to their colleagues. (No, this did not happen to me. No, my anonymous friend did not accept the request.)
Nov 17th
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Nov 17th
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Nov 16th
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Nov 15th
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Miss The Young Feminists Talk? Read The Recaps!
Thanks to the 92YTribeca for organizing and promoting this panel! If you missed the talk, check out their post-event rundown and photo gallery on the 92YTribeca Tumblr. Here’s some of the press coverage summarizing the major topics of discussion: “Chatting about Porn, Sex Work, and Blogging With Beauty Myth Author Naomi Wolf, Younger Feminsts”, Sarah Seltzer, The Wall Street...
Nov 15th
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What the New Feminists Look Like - MORE Magazine →
Here’s the online version of the article that prompted the discussion on the intergenerational clash between second-wave feminists and the new generation.
Nov 15th
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WatchWatch
ask lena: how can I help the cause against bullying? | gURL.com Do you have to be a celebrity to stop gay bullying? Absolutely not! My latest “Ask Lena” vid for gURL.com responds to a reader who wants to know how everyday teens can do their part for social justice. Previously on gURL: Talking Virginity With Therese Shechter of “How To Lose Your Virginity” Lena’s...
Nov 12th
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Anonymous asked: I love your blog! I read what you wrote in Glamour too, you're great. I want to know though, what does a modern feminist think about dating websites?
Nov 11th
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Check out the new site for Feminist Coming Out Day →
As some of you know, Abby (the current co-president of the feminist group at Harvard) and I have been working on ways to expand this project nationwide. Please check out our new site and contribute your story to the Feminist Portrait Project!
Nov 11th
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Thanks for coming out last night!
Saw so many old friends and met a lot of awesome people at last night’s young feminism talk and at Jennifer Pozner’s “Reality Bites Back” book launch. Wish I weren’t quite so frazzled, but what can you do? As I told plenty of people, I was running on little sleep and one cup of Greek yogurt all day. (Plus my dinner consisted of a double espresso, a beer, and a...
Nov 11th
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Naomi Wolf Talks with Feminism's New Young Leaders →
This is tonight! Leaving for my train to NYC now :) lenachen: This is happening and unbelievable and huge (that is, for me personally) and if you’re in NYC, please come say hi so that this will also be huge literally. All in all, I’m honored and slightly intimidated to be speaking among this group of women, but I’ll try to do y’all proud ;) Here’s the blurb: Voices from the left and right:...
Nov 10th
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A Love Story
A lot of people assume that a couple consisting of a German and a sex blogger must surely engage in plenty of Kinky Fun Times, right? The truth is much more boring than the perception. If a debate is started in our apartment, it will be finished, so all the more reason to not start it in the first place when there’s work (in the most liberal sense of the word) to be done. Tonight, we...
Nov 10th
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Nov 9th
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Anonymous asked: i recently stopped seeing a guy because he kept pressing me for sex. i'm no virgin or anything, but i guess i've had enough meaningless sex and i wanted sex with him to maybe mean something. is that unacceptable anymore? he claimed that he "just had a high sex drive" and that he couldn't stand it when "people make sex a big deal." are those red flags for guys? ...
Nov 8th
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Things That I Now Know I Can Cook
Chicken tikka masala! It’s the first Indian dish I’ve attempted. Pictures to come, obviously.
Nov 8th
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Nov 8th
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Anonymous asked: Hi Lena,

Does Patrick in general have the same views as you regarding marriage, feminism, the "one", sex, etc.or is he more like "Lena I can't wait until the day we get married, have kids, and drive in excess of 250 km on the Autobohn during my 50th birthday mid-life crisis"? I guess what I'm really wondering is what are the top three things you two...
Nov 8th
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Anonymous asked: What are some of your favorite blogs to read?
Nov 4th
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“As Chen also points out, a lot of “rules” like the first-date sex...”
– Anna North, summing up my stance on dating in a post on Jezebel today (“Social Minefield: How To Have A Great First Date”) She also interviewed the fab Jaclyn Friedman and Tasha Fierce. The basic gist of the message? Chill out. Be safe. Don’t determine who pays based on gender....
Nov 4th
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Nov 4th
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Anonymous asked: Lena,
First of all, I love reading your blog. Second, is there any chance you would do a speaking tour again? You spoke at the university I attend, Western, last year, but I unfortunately missed it and I would really like to hear you speak.
Nov 4th
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My lecture in one minute | This week in New York... →
“The idea is to bring together the two generations of feminists and show that they actually have a lot in common. [The idea for the article] came out of two lunches we had, one for Jenny Sanford and one for Naomi Wolf. Inevitably the conversation drifted over to the older feminists on one side of the table saying, ‘Why aren’t you guys grateful to us for what we did for you?’ and the young...
Nov 4th
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Anonymous asked: do you squirt? is it normal?
Nov 4th
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Anonymous asked: Can all girls squirt?
Nov 4th
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Anonymous asked: Do you think when a girl is recieving sex anally that it is her "submissing" or "submitting"?
Nov 4th
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“I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off.”
– an amazing mother on the indignant and homophobic responses she confronted when her 5-year-old dressed up as Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween
Nov 4th
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pims asked: Do you have a writing routine? A magic trick that gives you the motivation to write?
Nov 3rd
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talking about virginity with therese shechter of... →
We talk about giving away your “precious gift,” like your virgin status is really all you have to offer someone. When Taylor Swift sings in her song “Fifteen” that her friend ‘gave everything she had’ to a boy, it means she gave him her virginity, doesn’t it? And it ended badly because, well, if all you have is your virginity, then you’re left kinda worthless.That was EVERYTHING SHE HAD!...
Nov 3rd
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