May 2012
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Anonymous asked: When will start posting on your blog again?
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Anonymous asked: should middle school girls have anal sex to avoid pregnancy?
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"That woman looks like Yoko Ono."
thecurvature:
Chances the woman actually looks a little like Yoko Ono: .1%
Chances the woman just happens to be Asian with long, thick hair: 70%
Chances the woman is just Asian, sharing no other personal appearance traits with Yoko: 29.9%
Can you imagine if every thin white blonde woman “looked like Gwyneth Paltrow”?
I think I’ll start pointing to random white dudes with gray hair and saying...
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April 2012
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WatchSo! The above was filmed two years ago when I was a college senior. I had just met filmmaker Therese Shechter who was working on the documentary HOW TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY, and we were both attending an abstinence conference being held at Harvard. It was the first spark of inspiration for the Rethinking Virginity conference I planned later that spring. My 22-year-old self’s camera presence...
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“Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.”
– Oscar Wilde
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Hindsight
The person I am today is exactly who I wanted to be when I was 19, and I can’t decide if it’s a blessing or a curse that I wish I were someone else.
“Write what disturbs you, what you fear, what you have not been willing to speak...”
– Natalie Goldberg
“It’s awful! If I want realism, life is sitting right there. Why would I watch...”
– Alexandra Petri, HBO’s ‘Girls’ is so zeitgeisty it hurts to watch Petri’s take on “Girls” is pretty priceless. Though I haven’t watched the show (my single guilty TV pleasure is “Revenge”), it seems relevant to my book project! I’m currently obsessed with...
Ian McEwan on "The Lever: Where Novelists Stand to... →
The Roomie picked up two tickets for this event for me! I am so excited to finally see in the flesh one of my favorite living writers. I’ve pretty much read everything McEwan’s written, including his short stories and that libretto… am hoping there’s a chance this Tuesday to get him to sign a book? Maybe it’s time to get a hardcover copy of Amsterdam. Paperbacks...
To All The Guys Who Have Ever Fallen For "Elle"
You don’t know me. I don’t know you.
I do not want to help you find yourself.
I am not your Manic Pixie Dream Girl.
I am not the answer to your discontent.
Dear Inbox: Can I take a rain check?
Oof.
My emotional bandwidth (as well as my physical strength) is quickly approaching zero. My amazing yoga teacher, Mary, had hip surgery at the start of the month. Yoga was my only savior during the Great Writer’s Block of 2010-2011, and as a result, I’ve been kind of out of it since she went on hiatus. Plus, both the Roomie (whose dissertation deadline is in three weeks) and the...
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear...”
– Fulton Oursler
March 2012
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Headed to California for Sex:Tech & Pomona College...
Hey guys! Tomorrow, I’m headed to San Francisco to attend Sex:Tech, the 5th Annual Isis Conference on New Media, Youth, & Sexual Health, where I’ll be speaking on a panel about online intimacy and relationships. Then I’ll be in Los Angeles from April 3rd to 6th to do an event at Pomona College. It’ll be a hectic week of work and travel, but I’m hoping to see both...
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Sex Week At Harvard From March 25 to 31st →
Yay, it’s finally here! My friends Abby Sun and Sam Meier have been working incredibly hard throughout the past year on making Sex Week at Harvard a reality. The culmination of their efforts is an incredibly diverse week-long slate of events featuring speakers like Tristan Taormino, Megan Andelloux, Dr. Lisa Wade of Sociological Images, and my friend Lux Alptraum.
Check out the full...
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Catch Me At Rutgers Tomorrow! →
Here are the blurbs for my two workshops - first time I am doing the second one, but super excited for both. I did this conference last year and it was really fun :)
Hooking Up & Getting Down: The State of Casual Sex & the College Romance, 1:15-2:15pm
Half a century after the sexual revolution, premarital sex is today the norm, and social conservatives lament the rise of the...
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Austin, #digitalsex, and other things
Sitting in Charlotte, NC right now. I literally just missed my connection to Boston because my sleep-deprived brain was too engrossed in writing to hear or see my flight boarding three feet in front from me. Whoops.
This was easily the single most bizarre week of the past year. Weird weather, unbelievable crowds, even less believable coincidences, not nearly enough sleep, and a total change of...
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Same blog, different girl.
I told someone yesterday that I’m moving to Berlin to disappear, to be someone else … or rather to be no one, because if I really think hard about it, it’s the possibilities of a blank slate that excite me.
Wouldn’t that be nice?
Because the truth is that something changed over the past six months. I stopped freelance writing back in September, so that I could fully...
Anonymous asked: Hi Lena, I was at a really financially desperate and emotional low last semester, and ended up broadcasting on a live chat sex website. I was still dating my boyfriend at the time, with whom I had severe trust issues (fearing he would cheat on me because I was cheated on in the past). I never told him about this, knowing it would break his heart, but his friends stumbled upon a recording of a...
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Happy International Women's Day! →
It’s also the anniversary of the original Feminist Pride Day (previously known as Feminist Coming Out Day).
For the past two years, I’ve promised myself to go easier on the travel/speaking commitments in March. You know that despite organizing FCOD the previous two years, I have only attended one of the events (the first-ever one in 2010)? Maybe this will change now that the Feminist...
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Hello, Austin!
I’m here. I’m alive. And I’m only *mildly* sleep-deprived. (Yay, that rhymed!)
I’m kicking myself for forgetting my “As Seen On The Internet” tee (because really, how perfect would that have been for my panel?), and I’m pretty peeved that I’ll spend tomorrow scurrying around to locate last-minute business cards, but when my tummy’s full of...
Alas!
This is a gift. It comes with a price.
It has felt wonderful to unplug and indulge in the virtual silence the past couple weeks. Sadly, I think my quiet writing time is quickly coming to an end. I’m going to Austin a couple days earlier than expected (leaving Wednesday!) and will be decidedly online until I get back to Boston. I haven’t even figured out what I’m doing while at...
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Going To Austin For SXSW? →
Catch me at this SXSW Interactive panel next week … I arrive in town this Wednesday and will be there for six days. *Very* excited to see Austin!
SEX IN THE DIGITAL AGE Monday, March 12 12:30PM - 1:30PM Driskill Hotel - Driskill Ballroom
As the Internet has become an increasingly integral part of our daily lives, it’s transformed virtually everything about how we live—from...
February 2012
Anonymous asked: Your life changed in an instant as you said on Twitter: what happened?
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Wait to have sex? | YouBeauty.com →
Say you’ve started seeing someone you really like. As far as you’re concerned, how long will it take before you have sex?
1-2 dates
3-5 dates
6 or more dates
Only after the wedding
If you’ve ever read my Bedsider essay on the first time I shared dinner and bodily fluids with the Roomie, you already know my stance on first-date sex. Granted, not everyone wants to start off their...
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Anonymous asked: um, i entered one of your contests and now my full name is on some nasty blog saying I want a free dildo. i thought the entries were anonymous wtf?